Last time I told you I was going to talk about how feeling all your feelings does NOT mean you are dysregulated in your nervous system. That is super important, but this feels more important today: using your voice. Your throat chakra. Your communication system with the world around you. You see, if you expect
I hope you are enjoying this series on boundaries so far and if you are just tuning in, check back at the posts to see what you have missed. Have you been able to identify where you land most of the time on the drama triangle? If you have then hurray! And if not, you
Hello Beautiful Nervous Systems, I know you are much more than a nervous system, but today I am speaking to who is running the show: your nervous system. You may have just passed American Thanksgiving. How did it go? You might be anticipating upcoming holidays. What is sitting in your body around it? We often,
We can’t discuss boundaries without talking about conflict at some point. Conflict! Such a loaded word for so many people, and we all have so many different reactions to it. Hiding, fighting, peace-keeping, freezing. A lot of how we respond to conflict is what we learned growing up. We all take on roles, whether we
I’m not a victim, I’m a survivor! Indeed you are. But either of these labels can also get you stuck there in the same agitated nervous system state. The victim will recoil, have stories of resentment, worry and shame. They won’t be direct with their feelings and sometimes expect people to “just get it” when
A few weeks ago I was interviewing someone for my podcast and usually I am right on point. I have a flow, I know where we are going. I ask the right questions to get us there. But I started feeling a little fuzzy. I felt myself losing track of the conversation and before I
Embodied Boundaries Part 2. You may be so good at setting boundaries and speaking your mind when it come to protecting other people. Your kids, your friends, or vulnerable groups in the world. You march into your child’s parent-teacher meeting and state your concerns You have no problem telling that bully what you will do
If you live in a sensitive nervous system, you know the importance of boundaries. How they can be difficult to hold firm. How it gets confusing when we feel guilty How we can feel indebted to people or make excuses for bad behaviour when we feel for others so, so deeply. And yet, we also
There are some things you only truly understand when you are in the middle of it, or in retrospective reflection. This is where I find myself in the middle of the countryside in South West France with my leg up. I have given myself (or rather it was given to me) the rare opportunity to
Thank you for being here. For being part of my life even if I never meet you, we are connected. Without other humans, who are we truly? I am writing because you are here and I want to connect in this way. It is actually an impossibly question as we came from a human,
