“The small things, they’re not small things.” Jon Kabat Zinn Have you ever been “whatevered”? If you are a parent of a teen, or a teacher, you already know what I mean.  Don’t speak to me that way. “Whatever” Please clean up your desk/room/socks. “Yeah, whatever” I’ve told you many times… “Got it. Whatever” One

“I know the secret of life, If you want to have loving feelings, Do loving things.” Ann Lamott The idea of “struggle” means there is something to struggle with.  I remember one particular clear, cold winter morning as I returned home from walk,  I realized that I had missed the whole walk.  The blue, clear

Bell “Let’s Talk” campaign to reduce stigma about mental illness raised a record-breaking almost $8 million this year! That is such great news but I am always stumped by the question… What keeps it so secret? Why do us humans find it so difficult to talk about our difficulties when clearly everyone experiences them to some degree? I have

Something very profound happens when we are worried, anxious, lonely or confused and are in the presence of someone else who is fully accepting, fully loving of who we are in those moments.  Nothing needs to be said. We connect on the level of humanity, of love. We know we are inherently ok, and we

I am often asked.. What is the best treatment for anxiety? What therapy is the most effective for trauma? How do I know if therapy is working? These questions and their answers are very personal, but I can offer some perspective.  First of all, only YOU know if you feel like you are on the

Feeling stuck?  “I’m feeling stuck” is a thought trying to describe either a tension in the body or a thought pattern of looping and not coming up with the next step or the solution.  Have you felt stuck in a relationship pattern, a work project or a life decision?  Sometimes feeling stuck is a symptom

I’ve been asking myself and others this question a lot lately and have been doing an exercise that has been so helpful and revealing that I want to share with you.  You may have already jumped to answers such as : peace calm happiness my job back my health to feel good to see my

If there was one big gaping public wound to be healed from 2020, what would it be? The epidemic of fear and anxiety? The pandemic of Covid? The exposure of racism? The need for anger management? I would say there is an underlying, much more covert yet equally corrosive, contagious and dangerous virus… shame.  Shame

“I will panic when it’s time to panic… and not a moment before.” I’m not sure who said that, it could have been my mother, but it is a quote that has stayed with me.  We spend so much of our lives panicking when there is no apparent threat in the moment. This is called

If you are feeling restless or agitated in your body, you are definitely not alone. Whoa, the world is heating up out there. For some, it feels like boiling point. And a helplessness to do anything, to take action. Be careful, this combination of stress, even trauma, and helplessness can get us stuck in a