Madeleine Eames

- Psychotherapist
- Mindfulness Teacher

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True freedom is….

 

Sit still for a moment and notice. Is there a voice inside your head? What is it saying?

If you are alive, you have a voice. Maybe one or two, even a chorus of various committees telling you how to live this life. 

As you sit down to relax, read a book or watch tv, it might pipe up “hmm, I think I’m hungry. What should I have? Perhaps pizza? Oh no, that’s too unhealthy. Maybe I’ll wait. No, what is there in the fridge. Maybe I’ll go look. Nah, later.”

Or as you walk: “I forgot to do that today. Ok, when I get home. I hope I remember. I’ll pull out my phone and set a reminder. Oh I won’t have time I have to pick up kids. I never have enough time. I should clean up my act. I’m always rushing.”

On and on. It never stops narrating your life. “It’s cold today. I should wear a coat. I’ll check the weather. Oh shoot, where is that coat?”

Anticipating: “I wonder how the meeting will go. I hope —- doesn’t show up. I’m sure they will. It’ll be a disaster if they do. I don’t want to go. Maybe I should look for another job.”

How does it do it? The voice can change a pleasant moment into a disaster in a moment’s notice. It can completely ruin a day, ruin a life and causes wars!

We don’t ask for it, we can’t control it and we don’t even know where the thoughts come from. They just arrive and the door is always open. 

Real transformation can only happen when we realize that we are not the voices in our heads. We are the one who is listening. There must be someone listening in order to hear it. 

Today, begin by simply noticing the voice. Notice the stories that it tells about you, your life, what you are doing and what you should be doing. Start to get some separation from it. 

But beware, go carefully. That voices can get pretty harsh especially when you feel down, out of control or don’t follow it’s orders. 

Don’t worry. It can only hurt you if you believe it. 

Sit back, relax and enjoy the show.  Your life will unfold anyway. 

Imagine it without the drama inside your head. 

In truth, you cannot control the external flow of life, you can only ever control the internal reaction to it. 

Have a great day!

Madeleine

https://mindfullivingnow.mykajabi.com/from-fear-to-freedom

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