Madeleine Eames

- Psychotherapist
- Mindfulness Teacher

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Can You Allow All the Joy that is Available?

Everyday I am shown the healing power of mindfulness. The ability to pause, and rest in the awareness of being.

That might sound lofty, out of reach, or just plain boring. But, I ask you…

When you look back in your life, do you now see all the moments of joy and complete freedom that were there? Ready and waiting to be experienced in that moment? Did they pass by unseen, unfelt, unrecognized?

Of course there were lots. Many get missed or only seen in retrospect. The human mind has not been trained to be in the present moment most of the time. That’s ok.

Let’s begin today. How do you open to joy in your life? Can you be vulnerable enough to let yourself allow all the joy that is available? What, exactly are you waiting for?

That might seem like a stupid question… of course I allow joy! Of course I like being happy! I can’t wait to feel joy again!

Great. But I’m not talking about the big, stupendous joyful events that are so incredibly awesome. I’m talking about the day-to-day practice of allowing joy in, no matter what.

How is that possible, you ask? Well I am not minimizing the difficulties, trauma and sadness that come with being human. That is part of the life package.

But within that, and because of that, we can experience joy. It does not have to prevent it.

I have seen some of the strongest, most joyful people rise from the ashes of devastating trauma.

As I sat with both of my parents who were dying from cancer, there were still moments of joy.

First, notice: As we inquire into the experience of joy, we may find some unresolved beliefs about ourselves such as ‘I don’t deserve to feel happy’ or ‘How can I feel joy when others are suffering’ or ‘When all is good, then I can feel happy’ (don’t hold your breath) or ‘I will feel happy when I get, do or achieve XX’.

Second: Breathe and extend your exhale so you can open.  We can hack a stressed-out nervous system simply by extending our exhale.

Third: Observe. Look around you. Look at someone’s face, the sky, the room, nature. All is joy. 

The more you practice joy, the more will come to you. This breath, this sunshine, this rain, this cashier, this car, this music, this moment.

Please, today, open up to the joy that is here already. There will always be things we want to change, but right here right now what is already good?

As you know by now I am so passionate about the magic of mindfulness to change lives. I want to share this with you. 

If you are ready for change and to embrace the life you are living then join me in the summer Fear to Freedom 5-week online course in mindfulness for anxiety.  

There is one week left to register so don’t miss out.  The link to join is right here:

Fear to Freedom Summer 2019

Your life is worth it.

Lots of love,

Madeleine

 

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