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Madeleine Eames

- Psychotherapist
- Mindfulness Teacher

The Difference Between Fragile and Sensitive

Let’s face it, sensitive people get a bad wrap in our society. 

Crying at a movie? SO sensitive.

Worried about a narcissistic boss? Don’t be so sensitive.

Reacting to being bullied, yelled at, or other aggression? Toughen up. 

What if these were absolutely appropriate, adaptive and resilient responses to a humanity where we are all in fact connected and inter-dependent?

“It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society”

Krishnamurti

Sensitive people are aware and open to the energies, impulses and moods of other people. 

Often this is an extra-sensory perception developed in childhood in order to adapt to a world where one needs to stay connected and attached in order to survive. And some nervous systems are born that way. 

The problem is when sensitive people become dysregulated or overwhelmed and don’t take the time to rest and look after themselves. 

The truth is, sensitive people are strong. They adapt, they bend, but it’s hard to break them.

Fragile or delicate people on the other hand (and I don’t mean frail or in poor health) are easily toppled by a comment, a look or a slight to their ego.  They often blame and criticize others, or become bullies because they simply cannot take feedback or allow others space and voice at the table. Yes, I include the narcissistic type.

We have applauded the wrong type of strong. Sensitive IS the new strong. It is the only way we will survive.

Nelson Mandela was a strong, sensitive person. He had to be to listen, to be aware of others histories and emotions, and proceed in an intelligent way. He didn’t fight with guns, or behind the scenes on Facebook or Twitter. He reconciled with talk, with music and sport. 

He didn’t bully other countries, or those less or more fortunate, or women or children. 

There can be no keener revelation of a society’s soul than the way in which it treats its children.

Nelson Mandela

What if the sensitives, the feelers, the artists of this world were actually the changemakers? The ones with their ear to the winds listening for new, creative ways to evolve?

Ways that doesn’t use brute force, bullying or expecting the world to conform to their agenda. 

By staying open to healing themselves, by adapting and making space for everyone, and being sensitive to everyone who is at the table now. 

If you are a sensitive woman who is ready to heal the past and uncover your own strength and worth, join me in a guided transformational breathwork journey to uncover your truth. 

Because sometimes words just can’t get us there…

Hit ‘reply’ if you want more info or if this resonates with you. 

With you on this path, 

Madeleine

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