Author picture

Madeleine Eames

- Psychotherapist
- Mindfulness Teacher

Letting Go, Uncertainty and earthquakes


Last week I sat in my office as a therapist for the last time. After over 25 years of counselling, I officially closed my practice. That makes my heart jump even as I write it as it will take some time to really sink in. After all, we get wired to keep doing what we are doing, whether it’s a job or an addiction! 

I must say ‘thank-you’ to all the folks who dared to make a phonecall and enter my office to sit on my couch and say what needs to be said, open to new possibilities and shifts, some expected, some completely unexpected. It is a courageous commitment to look at one’s life clearly and examine how it came to be this way. I have learned so much from each and every one about life, the human condition, suffering and triumph.


With every ending, there is a beginning, and this is both. With every ending there is a process of letting go in order to make space for something new.  Not all letting go is voluntary and sometimes a crisis or surprise happens that forces the issue. We might think that letting go is something that happens in the mind such as “I am letting that go.” However, true letting go is a process that is far more visceral and felt than a simple decision but it requires one condition:


The sooner we become comfortable with the anxiety of uncertainty, the easier life becomes.


It is possible to let go in one foul swoop. But more often it goes likes this: It starts with an intention, a rumbling that this is what is required. I knew for some time this is where I was headed, but I chose to ignore it for a while, not knowing what would be next. Then actions.  Small, step-by-step cracks that signify you are changing course. For me it was not taking on any more clients, cleaning up, and eventually saying goodbye, one by one. Not all letting go is easy. At each point there was a longing to return to the familiar and maintain status quo and keep the prior identity.  At each point my higher knowing came in to remind me of my intention. Then, the final eruption when it’s gone. 


Then come the aftershocks:  the doubts, the re-affirming, the reflection of a chapter lived, the anxiety of the next step, the opening to a new chapter. All of these steps are important and to be honoured. In fact, it is this space in between where growth lies. Like the chasm in between solid ground. If you have 6 minutes, watch my very favourite, albeit dated, video on this space where growth lies: Turning fear into Transformation: the Parable of the Trapeze


You can apply this to any issue or habit you might be letting go of. Notice the tendency to cling.. to old or new. Probably the most important piece is to breathe into the gap. What I mean by that is, when temptation lures you to backtrack or take the route back to your comfort zone, pause. Feel the tension, breathe, and move through it. Your growth lies outside the comfort zone. Fear is a door asking to be opened. Don’t worry, there’s no tiger on the other side. Only a bigger you. If you liked this idea, watch this short 2 minute video for more from the authors of ‘The Tools’.: reversal of desire.


Here’s to moving through fear to the other side,



ps. Did you get the earthquake analogy?



4 thoughts on “Letting Go, Uncertainty and earthquakes”

  1. Congratulations Madeleine on a very successful career. You have touched many that you know of and many that you don’t know. Now you are free to choose again. It is a process as you said, but as I’ve found out, it can be very exciting. All the best in this next adventure called Life. Joanell

    • Isabel, you can click to the link where you see it highlighted, either on ‘the parable of the trapeze’ or ‘reversal of desire’, depending on which one you want…


Leave a Comment

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Madeleine's Most Recent Posts

Reclaiming ALL Emotions for Freedom and Wholeness

  Diverse societies are more adaptive, resilient and survive longer. Diverse diets support a healthy body and microbiome. Diverse plant life support each other to grow and the health of the whole region. Biodiversity is a key indicator of the health of an ecosystem. Diversity supports life in the earth’s

Read More »

In Praise of Quiet Healing

In a world that is loud, it is easy to miss the quiet, soft moments where the earth moves. I was at a breathwork class the other night. This was not the usual deeper, slower yogic breathing, it was the activating, hard work, “go deep or go home” type of

Read More »

Respect the Contraction, the Expansion is Coming

Good Sunday morning everyone,  Sundays feel like a day of reflection for me. A pause to breathe, ponder, metabolize and write. This is such an important part of healing and expansion.  In life, we can call it trauma, stress, anxiety, or the everyday difficulties and annoyances, but what is actually

Read More »

Subscribe For Peaceful Insights

Top Posts

Want To Know The Truth About Anxiety?

Madeleine’s Archived Posts