Madeleine Eames

- Psychotherapist
- Mindfulness Teacher

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Don’t tolerate thoughts you don’t desire…

 

Mary (not her real name) had a nasty boss. He was sexist, rude, and generally a bully. He took up a lot of her energy, and a lot of her time, just in her repetitive, fearful, negative thoughts. As a result, she began to feel badly about herself and her self- esteem took a nosedive. In other words, his reach went far beyond the office door…

 

Mary began to realize the global effect the situation was having on her health and well-being. We worked on a self-care plan that included not tolerating a helpless victim story about herself. At the first thought that crept in around that story, she replaced it with “I am in charge of my thoughts and my life”. Her energy increased, she began exercising again, reaching out to friends, and lo and behold, she began to see her boss with a semi-compassionate eye…. as the unhappy, controlling person he was. Magically, another job popped up that she knew was just right for her, and she applied and got it.

 

Mary stopped tolerating a story about her life that wasn’t true… how about you? Do you have a story or thoughts that you can stop in their tracks and choose a different, more empowering way? If so, please, please do it 🙂

 

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2 thoughts on “Don’t tolerate thoughts you don’t desire…”

  1. Good advice. Thanks. I forwarded your blog to my daughter and she subscribed. You hit the nail on the head for her. Namaste. Joanell

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