Madeleine Eames

- Psychotherapist
- Mindfulness Teacher

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What imposters are invading your life?

 

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Our life experience affects us. I think we can all agree with that. Sometimes, no matter how hard we try to put things behind us, move on, start again, our experiences creep up on us and pounce when we least expect it. “But I thought I dealt with that!” I often hear… and perhaps you did talk about it, but have you thought about what beliefs you carried away with you into your current life? Beliefs are just thoughts that you keep thinking…

 

This often lies at the root of much stress and anxiety,  feeling ‘not enough’ or feeling that you are not capable. Thankfully, the roots get exposed and are often not that difficult to pull out. How to go about this excavation? Think about where in your life you get stuck. Where do you often feel stress, angst, unease. Stop right now and close your computer and give this some attention and it will come to you. Now, what belief are you hanging on to? Look deeper to find it. The belief may seem really valid and true, but if it’s causing tension it may be driven by a younger engine, such as “I have to please others”, “I have to be good”, “I cannot show weakness”, “I am responsible for others’ feelings”, “I have to be fit/smart/perfect” (impossible!), “They have to behave a certain way” (do they.. who says?). See what comes up for you.

 

Get this: These beliefs running the show are simply there to protect you from feeling unworthy, shame, sad, or other emotions. How about just letting the energy of these emotions be there instead, so it can dissolve, setting you free? They will pass and they won’t kill you, I promise. Don’t be afraid of beliefs… just start to recognize them, notice they are old, and get on with your life. They are like mold… yucky, but glad you found it because now you can cut it out!  As Ghandi understood, changing your beliefs comes over time.

 

Take some time to recognize and question who is in the drivers seat… the true you, or some false belief guiding you away from yourself? Happy Excavating!

 

Have a wonderful week,

Madeleine

 

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“The tragedy is that what you disapprove of in others is the very thing you disapprove of in yourself.”
Stephen Richards

 

 

 

 

 

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