Madeleine Eames

- Psychotherapist
- Mindfulness Teacher

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It’s time to stop…

“If it feels right, do it.”

Oprah

 

Why is the fear of public speaking worse that the fear of death?  Because one of the biggest fears people have is what others think of them. It may not even be a big, obvious monster fear, but a small worry that keeps you smaller than you are…. what if I wear this? what if I say no? what if I speak my mind? what will they think of me if I do this? Get mindful and become aware of where you hold yourself back.

Then, it’s important to figure out exactly who they are? One friend, a family member? a co-worker? Usually when you get specific, you find out it may only be one or two people in your life.

Ask yourself… why do I care? Usually it’s more to do with your own insecurities about what you are saying/doing/taking a leap than theirs. AND the people that are NOT supportive of your actions may have fears of their own about change, you being different than them, or stepping out of the box. Envy is a product of not fulfilling your own dreams…….

Contemplate… what if I DON’T? Will I regret it? What feels right? What is in line with my true integrity?  If I really didn’t care about what others think, what would I do then?

 

There is your answer. The truth is, with millions of people with millions of different, brains, histories, likes and dislikes and their OWN fears… how could you possibly expect everyone to be A-OK with everything you do?

Life is short. At the end you will look back and see what you have DONE, not what you haven’t done. And where wlll they be then?

Go ahead. Take a deep breath and do something today that feels right for you, despite what others think. The results might not be as bad as you think…… and your true self will love it.

 

“It is not uncommon for people to spend their whole lives waiting to start living.” ~Eckhart Tolle

 

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