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Madeleine Eames

- Psychotherapist
- Mindfulness Teacher

Projection

“I realized that I only judged people when they displayed a quality I could not accept in myself. If someone was a show-off, I no longer judged them because I knew that I, too, was a show-off. Only when I had completely convinced myself that I was not capable of a certain behavior would I get upset and point my finger at the other person. Hold your hand straight out in front of you and point at someone. Notice that you have one finger pointing at that them and three fingers pointing back at yourself. This can serve as a reminder that when we are blaming others we are only denying an aspect of ourselves.” ~ Debbie Ford from The Dark Side of the Light Chasers

 

This quote describes Projection in the best way…. think about who triggers irritation, frustration and otherwise uncomfortable emotions in your life. What aspect about them gets you the most? There is the key to your shadow…. the unconscious parts of us that we try our best to avoid, lock away, but they come out in different ways and can wreak havoc in your life.  Go ahead, shine the light on it and recognize that you, too, carry that quality… embrace it and let it settle into your personality as part of your wonderful whole….. then it loses power over you….

 

 

 

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