I’m not a victim, I’m a survivor! Indeed you are. But either of these labels can also get you stuck there in the same agitated nervous system state. The victim will recoil, have stories of resentment, worry and shame. They won’t be direct with their feelings and sometimes expect people to “just get it” when

A few weeks ago I was interviewing someone for my podcast and usually I am right on point. I have a flow, I know where we are going. I ask the right questions to get us there.  But I started feeling a little fuzzy.  I felt myself losing track of the conversation and before I

Embodied Boundaries Part 2.  You may be so good at setting boundaries and speaking your mind when it come to protecting other people. Your kids, your friends, or vulnerable groups in the world.  You march into your child’s parent-teacher meeting and state your concerns You have no problem telling that bully what you will do

If you live in a sensitive nervous system, you know the importance of boundaries.  How they can be difficult to hold firm. How it gets confusing when we feel guilty How we can feel indebted to people or make excuses for bad behaviour when we feel for others so, so deeply.  And yet, we also